soak 1 c water 1 c rice 20 min add 3/4 c water 1/4 c coconut milk, 1 t salt, 1 T sugar. Boil until absorb. Sit, covered, 10 min. Heat Ø boil, coconut milk w/ sugar. Mango slices
2 p. horseradish
1 p. ginger
1 p. black pepper
1 p. ground red pepper?
chili powder?
"steampunk bellydance"
DI skirts, make gather bustles, sew jangles on hem
1 smoking
2 black
3 golden
4 round
5 lightning-struck
6 yellow
7 skinny
8 drinking
9 dancing
10 broken
11 king's
12 fat
1 wench
2 pot
3 cup
4 lord
5 blade
6 barrel
7 road
8 tree
9 horse
10 dancers
11 dog
12 boot
13 crown
14 fool
15 fork
16 child
17 peacock
18 knight
19 archer
20 cat
21 lute
22 chair
23 ship
24 dragon
25 unicorn
26 gryphon
27 goblet
28 spoon
29 fish
30 carriage
31 moon
Film idea: Woman eating cereal. Dog begs but woman denies. Woman leaves the house and dog goes to sleep on the couch. Stop-motion: little borrower characters come and cause mischief. At end, the bag of cereal is spilled all over floor and the creatures leave, and dog is munching on cereal when woman comes home. Woman is confounded as to how dog got cereal off counter.
"cause mischief" needs to be its own plot. That's the hard part.
hot blueberry milk
combine milk with a bit of butter, a bit of sugar, a bit of vanilla extract, and some blueberries. Heat until hot--not boiling. Puree until blueberries are liquefied.
responsible
intelligent
compassionate
I've seen a lot of relationship advice along the lines of, "Don't try to change him, you just have to accept him and love him for who he is"--which is good advice from a certain perspective, but it can also be fallacious. You can't force a person to change to a completely different person, and from a moral standpoint, you should certainly not try to control or change a person. You need to go into a committed relationship knowing who the person is, and loving him, not what you think you can turn him into. Second point of view: this mentality can be used as an excuse to be lazy, to avoid any attempt to improve yourself because "she needs to love me for who I am and that's that. Nothing else to it."
There is something else to it. Everyone should be working to improve themselves. (Self-improvement is a really important theme for me.) If you're going to be lazy & prideful & think that you're already perfect... I don't think you're going to have any good relationships. That attitude precludes any possibility of your partner contributing anything positive to your life. If you think you're already awesome and perfect, the only reason you'd want another person in your life, in a relationship context, is to show off how awesome and perfect you are--and then what is your partner for? You're not interested in her as a person, only her as an audience, and really, anyone can be an audience.
Change can't be forced by another person. The only way for one to change is for one to decide to change. Relationships should cause change for the better in both people--but not through machinations. It happens through the desire to have a good relationship and to make the other person happy. If you're only interested in making yourself happy, you're both going to be unhappy. If you're only interested in making yourself happy, you shouldn't be in a relationship.
Another perspective: Some people don't try improving themselves, not because they think they're already awesome and perfect, but because they think they're too horrible to be improved--that it's just impossible. I know it's hard to believe that self-loathing is a pride issue, but it is. The belief that you can't be improved--whatever the justification of this belief--is a result of pride. The idea that you're so special, these things (in this case, the necessity of self-improvement) just plain don't apply to you. Humility is the belief that you can be improved.
My advice: just don't get into a relationship with these people. They don't need partners, they need professional therapists. I know, that is really easy to say from outside of the situation. But I have been in the situation and I know how emotionally messy it can get.
So, anyway. Self-improvement is my point. Try to make yourself better, and try to let others indicate to you how you can make yourself better. (Within reason. Don't let yourself be manipulated or anything.) It requires openness to others, which could be considered ironic because it is a focus on self. But, improving yourself, if you truly are, improves your life, & improves the lives of those around you, and in an ideal situation, it inspires others to improve themselves, and basically spreads the goodness all around.
Wow. That was really cheesy.
1 cup grapes
2 cloves minced garlic (2 tsp)
2 Tbls. minced fresh parsely
1 T dried sage or 2 T fresh, minced
1/2 tsp. dried thyme
2 Tbls. lemon juice
1/4 tsp. ground mace
Work on hope--optimism, confidence, faith that good will happen. Study, pray
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